Why do some succeed and others fail?
I have seen people ask this question on quora and many other online platforms. Even on google the monthly rate of people that ask on google “Why do some succeed and others fail?” is 70. Well, 70 is actually very low comparing to world popular. So in this post I decided to discus about this question, tell some success story. I will also share some question and some response from experts that tried to answer this question. Before I start I will like to share some of my little success story.
I started blogging in 2016. I started with news blog. Well before I finished with my high school I had the vision of owning a website where I can share my ideas on how one can achieve success, and share some quotes from prominent people on success and failure. But I had friends that are into news blog. I joined them by blogging on different news that happens around us. I failed woefully. I quit blogging in 2018 and decided to do other things. Though I still have the passion to blog again, so before starting this blog I took time to learn about blogging very well, both on page SEO and off page SEO, affiliate marketing. This blog is just two months old as of the time of writing this post, and I have made some money through affiliate marketing. And most of my traffic source is from google search. For me this blog is a success. So, two things resulted in my success for this blog. Number one is that I’m blogging about the topics I love and the second is my in-depth knowledge about blogging and patience. The first two (2) weeks of starting this blog was horrible, my articles where not even ranking on google. But now the majority of my traffic comes from google.
Why do some succeed and others fail
Another story I would like tell is the success story of Bukowski
Charles Bukowski was an alcoholic, a womanizer, a chronic gambler, a lout, a cheapskate, deadbeat, and on his worst days, a poet. He’s probably the last person on earth you would ever look to for life advice or expect to see in any sort of self-help book.
Bukowski wanted to be a writer. But for decades his work was rejected by almost every magazine, newspaper, journal, agent, and publisher he submitted to. His work was horrible, they said. Crude. Disgusting. Depraved. And as the stacks of rejection slips piled up, the weight of his failures pushed him deep into an alcohol-fueled depression that would follow him for most of his life.
Bukowski had a day job as a letter-filer at a post office. He got paid shit money and spent most of it on booze. He gambled away the rest at racetrack. At night, he would drink alone and sometimes hammer out poetry on his beat-up old typewriter. Often, he’d wake up on the floor, having passed out the night before.
Thirty years went by like this, most of it a meaningless blur of alcohol, drugs, gambling, and prostitutes. Then, when Bukowski was fifty, after a lifetime of failure and self-loathing, an editor at a small independent publishing house took a strange interest in him. The editor couldn’t offer Bukowski much money or promise of sales. But he had a weird affection for the drunk loser, so he decided to take a chance on him. It was the first real shot Bukowski had ever gotten, and, he realized, probably the only one he would ever get. Bukowski wrote back to the editor: “I have one of two choices – stay in the post office and go crazy… or stay out here and play at writer and starve. I have decided to starve.”
Upon signing the contract, Bukowski wrote his first novel in three weeks. It was called simple Post Office. In the dedication, he wrote, “Dedicated to nobody.”
Bukowski would make it as a novelist and poet. He would go on and publish six novels and hundreds of poems, selling over two million copies of his books. His popularity defined everyone’s expectations, particularly his own.
Stories like Bukowski’s are the bread and butter of our cultural narrative. Bukowski’s life embodies the American Dream: a man fights for what he wants, never gives up, and eventually achieves his wildest dreams. It’s practically a movie waiting to happen. We all look at stories like bukowski’s and say, “See? He never gave up. He never stopped trying. He always believed in himself. He persisted against all the odds and made something of himself!”
I believe you have learnt something from those success stories above. I still want to share questions related to Why do some succeed and others failand and also some answers that might help you. Read them below:
Q1. I’m 21 and I already have failed in 3 business. I feel worthless. What do I do?
Ans1 From Michael Brooks
One lesson that I have learned from “failure” is that I have never failed. I now know how to do it different.
When I was 16 I started my first project, wasn’t a success and I thought it was a super great idea.
While working with lots of different partners and 4 failed businesses, even been through jail for 18 months, I didn’t quit. I had a break where I could think clearly: what did I do wrong all this time?
My mindset was right, I got my marketing skills, I did all things myself correctly (as far as I know).
3 months after after my prison release I picked back up where I have started: my accounting app
I have started it when I was 18 years old, no knowledge, no experience, nothing. The first 2 years wasn’t a succes, but after learning and trying and trying every time: find the problem and bring them the solution.
We have applied this tactic and did a better market research and slowly grew. Now 5 years later we are a successful company.
How did I succeed?
I believed it could be worse, I had seen worse, I changed my mindset and thought: after all those failures and all these years, is this where it is where I give up my dreams?
It is okay to take a break, take a step back, clear your mind and think straight, but never give up on your goals, sometimes the business you are working on doesn’t work, then you need to step up on to the next one.
I hope you all have a great day!
Ans 2 From Dave Lohman
Oh, man. You’ve failed 3x?!
Congratulations, bud. You’re doing something right.
Sounds like you’ve got about 27 more this decade, but you’re on the right track.
In my coaching group we have famous entrepreneurs and first year guys and everything between and 3 failed attempts in a year’s not anything unusual.
You can be a success for 12 years. When it’s time to start a new chapter, you’re a rookie again.
Might be a bit faster at letting things go, but none of the tricks you learn matter until you have consistent income, and initially sustaining that isn’t easy.
You might get it on your first try, many do.
But you’ll never get through an entire career without failure..
Now, by “fail” I’m assuming you mean. “Made no money and either strategically shut down or were forced to shut down due to lack of being able to stay alive.” Or close to that.
If you made money for a quarter and then stalled, I mean, is that a failure?
Maybe it was a cash grab while the market was hot?
But just realize its about the same odds as baseball.
“3 strikes and you’re out” only means “wait until your next at bat” because you get 4 in a game.
Also, ask yourself why you’re starting a business?
Do you have a passion?
Do you want to be a business owner or an entrepreneur?
An entrepreneur is somebody who brings something new to market, funds as much as possible with their own money, and who gets excited about failing.
Often, there’s no realization we’ve failed and sometimes failure is intentionally because the initial reason for doing the project or finding the mechanism of the solution we wanted is more important than the goal.
Many great products failed their first year or 12.
Willing to bet 90% of the entrepreneurs who developed those products were pretty damn excited after their first business failed.
Willing to bet that the day the first company failed, 90% of them had moms that were telling them, “It’s okay. Don’t get down… but it’s time to get a job now.”
And it’s more likely than not that every single one of them heard that and left without even remembering it by the time they hit their car
Can you imagine being the only person in the world holding the equivalent of the iPhone because your company, who owned 44% of it, lost faith and gave you 100% ownership of it?
Most people would be pretty depressed because they have a worthless phone with no network.
An entrepreneur realizes they have a $billion dollar phone in their hand and just need to find a bank to cash it in.
No matter what your goal is, entrepreneur or otherwise, that’s the mindset for success.
1. There is no past or present. Only the future and a vision
2. The only things you worry about are what you’re actually facing. “Only have 3 months budget left” may or may not mean curb some expenses, but it doesn’t mean start worrying about imaginary “What ifs”
And you certainly don’t worry about anybody else’s opinion.
3. Listen to others and understand their biases but trust only yourself.
Now, go chase an idea, expect a few more failures, and enjoy every minute of it…. At least you’re not facing 15 to life at a 9–5.
Q2. How do you succeed when you’ve failed almost at everything?
I need to fail to succeed.
No, this is not another clichéd answer about “how amazing failure is.”
Failure is not amazing. Failure hurts. Failure makes me cry.
But, looking back to my life, every major success I have ever had was accompanied right after failing. Don’t believe me?
9th grade: failed to win a medal from the International Astronomy Olympiad 2013. I came home and cried.
10th grade: lost in the city’s basketball championship. I wasn’t even starting for my team. You know what I was doing after the game? I was wrapped in my jacket in front of the court and was crying.
12th grade: got rejected by all US universities I applied to.
Gap year: Got into Cambridge. Didn’t get a scholarship.
I remember all of the days I felt hurt and washed up. The first time I had a major failure in 9th grade, I came home from Lithuania and went to my room. That was my first lesson; you don’t get anything without working hard.
I changed my Facebook password and gave it to someone else. I got real.
Same with basketball: I didn’t save energy in the practices. I didn’t even think about energy. 100%. Always.
(Bragging ahead but only for the purpose of bringing up a point.)
I won 6 International Science Olympiads, 5 National Basketball Championships and got tons of other scholarships along with crowdfunding to get to Cambridge.
I had the motivation to do all of these because I failed. Not despite them.
Failure is what drives me. Failure is what tells me to get the bum from the couch and work. Failure is what makes me obsessed and crazy. Failure makes me beat my chest up and go there and fight.
Failure is the reason I succeed.
Every time I fail, I know that I am going to surprise tons of people. I don’t think that, I know that.
A human can achieve greatness when he or she believes in it. We humans have power in our thoughts. The more motivated and obsessed we are, the more focused we are — the more likely we are to succeed.
When I fail, I feel a fire burning inside me. In the summer when I was gathering the funds for Cambridge, there was a point when I thought I failed (everything was pointing to that direction, but, somehow it all solved itself in the end.)
I have never felt something like that before in my life. I never felt such a fire burning inside me. I planned to write a best-seller book. Nobody in their right mind would think that possible but, not only I was devoted to it, but I believed I had a good chance of doing that.
There is always a sound in our heads telling us “you are a bit tired today, don’t work”. Those are the excuses we tell ourselves. But, when you are obsessed, when there is a fire burning inside you, your body, your brain, your muscles, your spirit is ready to fight. What I experienced was that; in a moment, the part of me which made excuses died.
I never wrote a book because I got the funding eventually. A part of me felt guilty for abandoning all that “fire”. Perhaps failure would have led me to do things which I can only imagine now. But my point is
Success is achieved by obsession.
Some people get obsessed by their own ego. Some people get obsessed to prove others wrong. Some people get obsessed by failure.
If you fail, and do not get up, perhaps you are not motivated enough.
Failure makes “the moment” real. You either get up or you stay there.
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